There are two types of trauma:
Shock Trauma and Developmental Trauma.
is what we normally think of as trauma – a sudden unexpected event that leaves you in significant distress and does not go away. Examples are physical or sexual assaults, car accidents, falls, medical operations, and other overwhelming events.
on the other hand is when as a child an important basic need of yours is unfulfilled with your parents. Every child has the need to feel wanted, to be able to express their needs, to feel safe, to express their emotions, and more. When an important need is unfulfilled for you as a child, you adjust to this situation by going into a coping response that becomes your default way of living. An example is a child whose needs are not welcomed, and so the child learns to disconnect from being aware of and expressing their needs.